This week’s podcast is a candid and eye-opening conversation around the topic of Trauma and Drama. Coach Sam and Coach Kevin uncover some important truths as they delve deep into this topic and share how a Warrior tool, Release the Rage, gives men and women the possibility to shift the drama, connect with the heart, and create a new perspective and path.
Parable #1: Drama Fuels the Ego
- Drama gives our ego fuel to justify and to create significance. So if this big thing is happening to me and to nobody else, then I must be very important.
- There’s a piece of us that wants to maintain the drama to continue to tell the story that we’re important, hanging onto that drama in order to hang onto our significance. But we also hang onto the negativity and bullshit around that same drama.
Where in your world is drama giving you a sense of importance and significance?
Parable #2: Drama Serves You
- There’s no question we have drama because it serves us. Most of the things that have fucked us up we learned to do because it gave us something in return.
- As babies, we cried and our mothers fed us. The problem is, we are no longer infants, yet we still have this instinct that maybe if I cry, someone will put a “tit” in my mouth; someone will give me attention.
How is drama in your life serving you? What is your payoff?
Parable #3: Drama and Disasters
- We have a tendency to get caught up in the drama of the disasters across the globe. It’s a way for us to stop thinking about our own lives, and instead, become completely distracted by the unfolding disasters.
- As we get sucked into the drama, we tend to forget about those around us who really need our time and attention. If we’re not careful, the drama will pull us away from what really matters most to us.
How do you respond to unfolding disasters? Do you get completely sucked in and distracted?
Parable #4: The Hollywood Effect
- We think that everything that happens to us is supposed to be this epic moment like we see in movies and on television. We learn from them how we’re “supposed” to act and feel.
- But these are manufactured to produce a certain response in us, almost like an audio-visual drug. It uses drama to tap into our emotions, which allows them to control us.
How has Hollywood affected your emotions and responses?
Parable #5: The Pit of Comfort
- Trauma happens, and then I take that trauma and build drama around it. “This happened to me, so, therefore, I’m going to isolate and stay in my fucking Pit alone in the darkness, because everywhere else I will be betrayed.” So into the Pit, I go.
- We create a dramatic story justifying why we should stay in the Pit, even though deep down inside, we want to be out of the Pit. We get comfortable inside of the Pit because the drama is easier to deal with than the trauma.
What drama have you created in your life because you don’t want to face the trauma?
Parables from the Pit:
“Sometimes we deliberately create drama through our words, actions, and feelings in order to draw attention, importance, and significance to ourselves.”
“Drama stunts growth. You cannot grow and experience drama at the same time.”